Many people believe that when you understand the small things in life, you are well on your way to being happy. But, what is happiness? Most emotions are transitional meaning you are never in one state for long periods. People who are considered upbeat will have moments of sadness or depression. Even depressed people are not depressed all the time. They have moments of happiness, too.
Think about a significant event such as a war. When two countries are fighting, both sides lose lives. It is bloody, and it can last for several years. But, when the war is over, the countries are euphoric. There will be no more bloodshed because of the war, and people can return to their homes.
However, there is nothing that has changed in the world except that the war has ended. In other words, the sun still sets each day. People still have to manage their lives. The euphoria from the war ending doesn’t last long. Months later, the war is even over, but the euphoria has died down.
The same is true in a smaller way when you have a terrible sickness. For instance, suppose you have a stomach bug that leaves you uncomfortable and in pain.
When the bug passes, and you are better, you feel beautiful. However, you don’t feel any better than you did when you weren’t experiencing the bug. It’s relative to the bad feelings. That’s how emotional states work. They go from one to the other on a constant basis.
Appreciating the small things in life may lead to happiness. But, it’s likely you are content more than you are happy. Contentment can almost be thought of as a neutral state, leaning on the side of comfortable. There isn’t anything wrong when you are content. But, there also isn’t anything that is making you overly delighted.
There may be too much pressure striving for happiness when you should be aiming for contentment. The good news is your appreciation for small aspects of your life will lead to peace without having to worry about trying to make yourself happy all the time. Those times will occur naturally.
If you spend most of your life content, you are doing something right. Think about all the people you love and what you have, such as your health and a good job, etc. If you try to imagine life without them, you will genuinely appreciate your contentment. That thought may even make you happy for a short period.
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